Rain of Freedom

It's been a year i haven't write anything on blog...but some time things get so much noisy to realize that inner calmness.

I do feel to write, but never get proper time..n when i got time ,not mood :) so today..i have time n mood both :) :) ;)

Today i was listening few ghazals of Jagjit & Chitra, i must say great couple...i think it would be great fun to sing together.

The day n song were complimenting each other..the 1st rain to season with 'main nashe main hune' of jagji's voice just goes perfect with each other.

I was enjoying rain like never before...the big smile didn't gone for second from my face :D at that time, that was feeling of freedom,like i dont care how others are thinking abut me ,i just want it to enjoy it fullest.

While i was changing my clothes..i realise Every thing in life changes U,other, frnds ,lover,family every one even season chages then why not human ,but when u accept it with big smile it becomes enjoyment....i know some time it is not soo easy without big smile.

Every single thing we do in life is just for happiness but some time we searches that outside for so long, we forgot the the freedom of being happy is inside me .... how simple na!!

U know i m some how stupid i took long time to see "simple"things,the possitive side is sooner or later i atleast see n accept it somehow :)

Good night,

10 Deadly sins of Nagative Thinking

The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. - Dalai Lama

Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. Youll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Lets take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges ” get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you cant be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, youll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied ” we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesnt have to be some state that we want to get to eventually ” it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: Well never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself ” what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful ” in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself ” you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you ” there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldnt even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure ” I cant seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them ” and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them ” keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what youve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. Its an incredibly positive feeling.

5. Im going to beat so-and-so no matter what ” Im better than him. And theres no way Ill help him succeed ” he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers cant also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition ” but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, dont let it hold you back. Dont dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You cant do anything right! Why cant you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, wed be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. Its super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: Ive actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, lets look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. Its also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way ” it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. Thats a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences ” for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Dont let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more ” why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them ” and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I dont think I can do this ” I dont have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you dont think you can do something, you probably wont. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it ” motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for œsome other time, youll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You dont need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

"It is your attitude and not your aptitude that determines your altitude.

Defeat never comes to any man until he admits it."

Life is beautiful... !!!." :)

Manage Your Stress

Habits That Help You Manage Your Stress


Today we have more stress in our lives than ever before – good stress, bad stress, red stress, blue stress . No matter what kind of stress it is, a real crisis or an imagined one, stress is incredibly harmful to our body, mind and soul.


Here are a few self-care habits for dealing with stress


1. Get in the habit of noticing.


Take an inventory of all the things that just don't feel right in your life or that you know are causing you stress. For example, when you approach certain people, places or situations do you feel more stress and tension? Once you have your list in place, look at what you can change yourself, and do it. You can also use this list to predict stressful situations before they occur.


2. Get in the habit of asking for help.



For what you can't change yourself, you need a team. Build a team of experts to handle your list. A coach, at the top of the list, will help with the big picture and will keep you honest about your efforts. Other team members might be a family doctor who listens to you, a financial planner, a massage therapist and an exercise partner.



3. Get in the habit of bouncing back.


Think of Plan A as your basic self-care plan while stress is under control. Now imagine something happens and you are under stress. Instead of abandoning all self-care because you can't do it all, have a Plan B ready beforehand.


4. Get in the habit of relaxing.


If you practice relaxation techniques (breathing, meditation, imagery, music) every day, then when stressful situations come up you'll have the tools at your fingertips.


5. Get in the habit of gratitude.


Our attitude comes from our emotions and our emotions come from our thoughts. Thinking about what we're grateful for and what we're good at can keep things positive. It's not about shying away from what's challenging you - it's about approaching life from a place of strength and not as a victim.


6. Get in the habit of creating.


Experiment with a new recipe in the kitchen, write a poem, bang a drum, do a craft, take a dance class or do something else that feels creative to you.


7. Get in the habit of putting your stuff away.


Physical clutter can really impact mental, emotional and physical health. Get rid of things that don't make you happy when you look at them. Organize your stuff. Find a place for everything and keep it there.

8. Get in the habit of breathing.



This is the simplest and quickest way to relax yourself in a stressful situation. The minute you focus on your breathing it automatically gets slower and deeper.

9. Get in the habit of daydreaming.


Take yourself away on an imaginary holiday. Just close your eyes and go! Picture somewhere you've been or somewhere you've dreamed of.


10. Get in the habit of giggling.
Laugh out loud every day.

Why ?

Remember how may time u use this word "why"? 2 times....3.....4.....? okey many times. when i was in school my teacher said "before doing any thing ask your self "why Ur doing ?, what is reason behind it ? if u find it proper than do,if not than leave it.."

But don't u think that makes us selfish?.To find asn. of each question are not always possible..."why you are doing ?" "because i don't wanna."might be a very rude ans.

some times in life some where u never have ans. of ur "WHY?"& some times ur even careless to find it,the reason behind it is ,to runing away from ur recent situation,acceptanc of the thing takes a very long time..but still there r many Q. of why?which is ans. i m still trying to find,befor thinking of that period ask my self "why i m even rembring it ?" and ans. is "i don't know, i m doing bcoz i want",might be i m selfish n runing away from acceptanc of right thing but, u know !!! "one blank statue come which makes u stupid n u will see only that thing u wanna see."

Many people might dont know "why they fall in love?" or "why a one is good frnd of his/her" or "why ur talking with other n trying to impress that person or others ?" or "why a one wanna marry to a girl/boy?, they will say every one is doing so i m too"..

so,"it's not always possible to get ans. of ur Q. why i m doing so?? but to Ask ur self why n do what ur heart say is more important."

So..So...So,Always try to find reason of the things which ur doing in ur life. belive me it's very good habit :)

Hstala vista.

Interesting Definatio

Here i have few interesting definition of our day to day life ...hope u guys would like it, and if u have any thing better than this so,tell me let see...
enjoy


School:

A place where Papa Pays and Son Plays.


Life Insurance:
A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that you can die Rich.


Nurse:
A person who works up to give you sleeping pills.


Love Affairs:
Something like the game of Cricket where one-day internationals are more popular than a five day test match.


Marriage:
It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree and a woman gains her masters.



Divorce:
Future tense of Marriage.




Tears:
The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by feminine water power.




Lecture:
An art of transferring information from the notes of the Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through "the minds of either"



Conference:
The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.



Compromise:
The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.




Dictionary:
A place where success comes before work.




Conference Room:
A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and everybody disagrees later on.




Classic:
Books, which people praise, but do not read.




Smile:
A curve that can set a lot of things straight.



Office:
A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.



Yawn:
The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.



Etc.:
A sign to make others believe that you know more than you actually do.



Committee:

Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to decide that nothing can be done together.



Experience:
The name men give to their mistakes.



Atom Bomb:
An invention to end all inventions.




Philosopher:
A fool who torments himself during life, to be spoken of when dead.



Diplomat:
A person who tells you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip.



Opportunist:
A person who starts taking bath if he accidentally falls into a river.



Optimist:
A person who while falling from Eiffel tower says in midway "See I am not injured yet."



Miser:
A person who lives poor so that he can die rich.



Father:
A banker provided by nature.



Criminal:
A guy no different from the rest....except that he got caught.



Boss:
Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.



Politician:
One who shakes your hand before elections and your Confidence after.



Doctor:
A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills.

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*HAPPY STARTING*

* HAPPY STARTING *

i m 18 n just enjoying my college days, but some times it's not enough ...home to college & college to home...chill out with friend,go to shopping,exams,spend time with family,i never come to know when a day is finished??but some times i felt i am missing some thing but didn;t know what?? in this routine..i totally forgot which things i really loves to do ,paper craft,make card,make bookmark, draw cartoons, painting,my barbies,learn new languages...

but after reading few blogs i felt this is the thing i want, a nice place where i can use my energy & as the same time express my thought.so,here i m...with few of my very memorable memories
which i would love to share.may be i forgot to tell u how i love my barbies...

remembering vacation day, when i get my all barbies out n design clothes, give new hair style,make new jewelery for it from junk thing.i still remember my 6th vacation..where i made a doll house from 'theremokol sheets' a white doll house with maroon curtains n big kitchen, a dining area,a biggg drawing room with artistic furniture, than up floor a bad room for my doll. this is the best thing i have ever made,i was feeling like it's my own home where i would loves to stay. all year i collect pices of cloth from which i can my my dolls dress,yes i can buy a dress from shop but, may be it will not give me that saticfaction.

after every new dressup of my dolls ,the thing i m eagerly waiting for ,was to show it to my grandmother, the words "ahha that's really good why dont u try this for ur doll??" always inspire me to create new things...my mom-dad think i m yet childesh who plyed with dolls.may be i m but i love it.that more important

whenever i make some thing i run to my grandmother !!! my sister used to say "what need to run cant u walk it" she might don't know how eager i m ?to show my things to grandma....
Many people used to tell me "what u will do with those dolls??u big girl now" but some times i even wondered "what really i will do with it ??" than i remember my dadi's word "will take with me when i get marry :) "those stupid Q. with stupid ANS. i never come to know how easly years start passing...i still brush my dolls hair...isn't it stupid ?? i get it's ans. after join here" To run after ur likings & dreams is never stupidity" when ever i remember those things i get satisfaction of doing to creating a littel things...that's why i do !!

i really fell free after remembering my early days...it's like ur making free to a dove from cage n it's flying in sky like it's have never seen it before,it's flying n flying till no limits !!

before writing i was wondering "can i write any thing good ?? but after end of this post i feel,Why should i care?it makes no diffidence whether other likes or not the only thing matter is you like to do n read to give ur 100%."



C U SOON
bye bye